Jasmine Lane's Guide To Pleasuring A Woman
Updated: Jul 11
An in-depth guide to getting it just right...
I know that sometimes a man's motivation for visiting an escort is simply to come and forget the pressures of work, bills, their home life, and so on. What they crave is an outlet for their frustration or a quick release to alleviate their stress. They want to be catered to, pampered and given a woman's full undivided attention.. to lay back, relax, and let me work my magic on them. Often, making it pleasurable for the woman is not their primary intention. And that's totally okay! You've paid good money for this. This time should be all about you. You deserve it...
But for those gentlemen who have a little extra time up their sleeve; for those who get off on mutual satisfaction, who genuinely care about the woman enjoying it as much as they do, and who get aroused by knowing they have made a women reach the heights of pleasure... This one's for you.
1) Do undress me.
Most girls love the submissiveness of this simple act of foreplay. It's so sexy to be with a man who takes charge, and it can feel quite intimate to be slowly "unwrapped" and devoured with his eyes. Teasing is the most important tool in your belt when it comes to seducing a woman (yes, even more important than that other tool!) Suspense is a powerful aphrodisiac and the idea of waiting for something makes it even more exciting. For women, arousal is as much in the mind, as it is in the body. And women's minds sometimes need a little time to catch up. Our libido doesn't work like yours. So begin by removing my clothes slowly, and suddenly you've created an atmosphere humming with temptation. By giving me just a few extra minutes to want it mentally before I actually get it, you'll have me almost ready to beg you for it. After all, anticipation of pleasure is truly a pleasure in itself.
2) Do explore the lay of the land.
There is the kind of sex that is carnal, intense, and impatient with lust. And there is the kind that is slow, tantalising and sensual. Both kinds are great! But here is some advice for the latter kind. Do not go straight to the Bermuda Triangle and get lost there, never to return. The Bermuda Triangle is the name I've given to the trio of body parts from whence men never return: this is the boobs, the bum and the pussy. Once a man is on course to visit these 3 areas, you can almost guarantee he won't detour from them and circle back around to a woman's other erogenous zones. Yes, that's right, women have areas that give her sexual pleasure other than just the boobs, bum and pussy. Pay some attention to these other zones gentlemen. Take your time, and notice how she responds to each area. Her neck, behind her ear, her waist, her inner thigh... Caress, massage, kiss, and lick everywhere you go. Again, this is about giving her mind time to catch up with her body. You've probably all heard a woman say those horrible words, "I'm not in the mood." I'm going to go ahead and make a bold statement... in my opinion, if you're willing to make the effort with foreplay, you can change a woman from being "not in the mood" to being ready and willing, at least 8 times out of 10. Remember that foreplay is more than just oral sex. If oral is the entree and penetration is the main course, then teasing her other erogenous zones is the mouth-watering cocktail you have before your meal. Like a pre-dinner drink, it can be incredibly... lubricating. I know the Bermuda Triangle is very exciting and all, but just wait and see what happens when you have the patience to venture out and discover new delights. I promise you'll thank me later.
3) Do be vocal.
Quiet men are confusing. Don't be afraid to make noise. For me there's nothing hotter than that guttural primal sound a man makes when he cums. So masculine. So sexy. Don't hold back guys. You don't want your girl wondering, "is this even good for you?" Also speak your mind when her skills in the bedroom, or her body, or her beauty just amazes you. Compliments give us an instant confidence boost. And a confident woman, is an uninhibited one. Trust me, this is a definite plus for you.
4) Do tell me what you want... what you really really want.
They say men are simple creatures. Have you ever heard the saying, "feed me, fuck me, and shut the fuck up"? To a certain degree, I think they are less complicated than women (let's face it, you need an 86 volume manual just to begin to figure a woman out!) But when it comes to sex, men have multifaceted and nuanced desires and no two men are the same. You can not expect us to demystify your complex sexual needs any more than we can expect you to decrypt ours. For this reason, you should feel comfortable in telling your partner your desires and fantasies. Ask for what you want. Let's face it, closed mouths don't get fed. Communication is paramount.
5) Do acquaint yourself with the location of the clitoris.
75% of women can not cum from vaginal penetration alone. How sad is that statistic? We really drew the short straw with that one. But the good news is, throw in some clitoral stimulation, and most women will be able to reach the big O. In fact, when I use toys at home, all I have to do is hold a vibrator on my clit, no penetration necessary. Using it to penetrate me will only get me so far. So here are some practical tips for clit stimulation (this is just my personal preferences). Pressure should be light, not firm (it is a highly sensitive area with bundles and bundles of nerves). Slow circulation patterns with the tongue or pads of the fingers work best. Never chew on the clit of yank it away from the body. Use lube! Don't get offended, it does not mean she's not wet, it's just that she's wet on the inside and the clit is on the outside. Lube just feels amazing and silky and warm (plus if we want to get all scientific, it reduces friction and protects the integrity of the skin). This next one goes without saying, but the clitoris and the vaginal entrance (the hole) are not the same thing and they are certainly not made equal in terms of their pleasure factor. If you're not familiar with the location of the clitoris, the easiest way to learn is to ask the next girl you are with to show you. She will likely feel flattered that you care enough to learn. The clit is not just for foreplay either. Involve it in penetrative sex (gently stroke it with your thumb). What you're aiming for here is the elusive double orgasm (vaginal plus clitoral all in one). It is utterly explosive and will blow her mind, not to mention she will grip your cock as tight as a vice. Finally, girls usually fall into one of two categories: either she's the type that wants you to keep going after she cums, or she's the kind that wants you to stop immediately after. Find out which type of girl she is and remember that. For some girls, continuing past orgasm can actually feel like torture (similar to what some men experience after they blow).
1) Don't shove your whole face in.
Going down on a girl takes finesse and skill. As mentioned above, you want to focus on the clit, not the hole. And as with all forms of foreplay, the "build up" is key. It's a sensitive area which can be overloaded quickly if bombarded by too much sensation. This will cause a girl to become either numb or hypersensitive. There's almost always no cumming back from there (pun intended). So start slow and ever so gentle, then gradually build up the pressure and speed. Do not eat me out like it's your last meal. It's a delicate area and should not be approached with ferocity or aggression (no matter how excited you are). Do not shove your entire lips, chin, beard, moustache and nose into my vagina. That's overkill. Less is more.
2) Don't shave in the morning if you are preparing for a night of passion ahead.
Women appreciate a little manscaping, a nice trim to tidy things up. But shaving your chest or pubic hair too close to the main event can leave us feeling like we've just tousled with a cactus. Hopefully you're lucky enough to have a woman between your legs with soft supple skin. Be careful not to decorate that skin with an angry-looking stubble-rash.
3) Don't be a Dyson.
Do not attempt to suck or bite her lips or nipples off. They bruise easily and remain sore for a long time. Be gentle with the delicate areas of a woman. Remember that we are more fragile than your big strong manly self.
4) Don't poke around looking for gold.
The number 1 most common thing men are doing wrong in the bedroom is fingering! And the repercussions for us ladies are simply the worst. So much so, that many escorts are afraid to offer digit penetration on their list of services. Just a few minutes of unskilful fingering from a client can be a horrific experience for us, leaving us so sore that we're off work for days (which of course costs us money). I can only assume that porn is to blame for giving men the idea that their haphazard and brutal fingering technique is actually what women want. Let me speak for women everywhere when I say we absolutely do not enjoy being punched repeated in the pussy with your fingers. And I know you're probably thinking "but a vagina can take a pounding from a dick and be just fine." Well yes, but fingers, while often shorter and narrower than a penis, can actually do far more damage. Dicks are just the epitome of fine design: they're smooth and rounded, hard inside with a soft outer sheath. Fingers however, have knobbly knuckles and jagged nails and joints at all angles. Fingers must be wielded with dexterity and care. Here's a quick lesson in the advanced art of fingering: Use lube. Go slow. Insert one finger at a time. Go slow. Make curving patterns, not jabbing motions. Go slow. Do not stab in and out like Woody the Woodpecker. And finally... Go slow!
5) Don't pressure me.
It goes without saying, if a woman says she is not up for something, never pressure her (this goes for escorts, girlfriends, one-night-stands, and everyone in between). You should feel free to express your fantasies and desires with your partner, but 'no' means 'no.' Encounters with escorts are not exempt from this rule. Just because you've paid for her time, does not mean you own her body. And if a woman says no to a particular sexual act, do not waste your breath trying to persuade her otherwise. Do not tell her that although she didn't enjoy something in the past, she will enjoy it with you because you are magical and special and different. Trust that she knows her own body better than you do, she has lived in it long enough so she is the expert in it after all. Some things are just not on the menu. You need to accept that and move on so you can enjoy the many delicious things that are on the menu.
Now go out and deliver waves and waves of orgasms to the deserving ladies of Perth!
Tell them Jasmine sent you xx