It's a question many clients ask. And there are so many reasons that I often struggle to give them a short answer on the spot.
I was always curious about sex work. Even as a young teenager I was fascinated by TV shows and movies depicting prostitution, and I often wondered what it would be like. It felt like something unexplainable was drawing me towards it. However I could never have imagined just how much I would grow to enjoy it.
Escorting is definitely not for everyone. It takes a special kind of girl to feel at home in this industry. In some ways, we are just normal girls that you probably pass by everyday. Most people would never guess that we're hiding such a dirty little secret. But in other ways we have unique motivations that enable us to feel comfortable doing the wildest, most scandalous things with virtual strangers. If you've even wondered what makes us tick, here's my top 10 reasons why I'm an escort.
1) THE SEX
I believe that it is possible to be an escort without enjoying sex, but not if you want to be a successful escort. Any escort who's worth the stilettos she's standing on, must genuinely love sex. And what's not to love? Every time I orgasm during my work, it's like this amazing bonus that just never stops giving. Plus escorting is one of the only jobs on Earth where you will almost always discover new things to try. Every day (and sometimes every hour) is vastly different. There are no limits on my ongoing journey to expand my mind and body. And while the sex is fantastic, there's also the affection and intimacy that accompanies it. After all, it is in our nature to crave human touch.
2) THE THRILL
There is nothing quite like the adrenaline of arranging to meet a man, getting all dolled up in a sexy tight dress with lace panties underneath, and then feeling your heartbeat race in your chest as you wonder what's waiting for you on the other side of the door. That feeling is completely and utterly addictive.
3) THE POWER
There is immense power in being in control of a man's pleasure. Samantha from Sex and the City summed it up best: "Maybe you're on your knees, but you've got them by the balls." For me, the act of seducing a man feels so empowering. Sometimes there seems to be a preconceived notion that sex work oppresses and degrades women, however my experience could not be further from that. Sex work makes me feel like a goddess. It gives me confidence, it makes me feel liberated, and it teaches me about my own sexual desires.
4) THE MEN
The sexy, kind, generous men. Men of all ages, colours, shapes and sizes. Men who've taught me things about life, love, business, and culture. Men who make me laugh out loud (and moan even louder). Men with whom I've developed a sense of trust built on mutual listening, comforting and sharing. Men who have opened up my mind and body to amazing and exciting new delights. My regular clients, I hold close to my heart. These friendships are so very dear to me. While there are of course boundaries in place regarding my interactions with clients, that does not in any way diminish my genuine enjoyment of our time together.
5) THE MONEY
I would be lying if I said I didn't like the money. It comes fast and easy, and there's an abundance of it. In which other industry does a woman have the ability to make so much money in so little time? The sex industry gives women the luxury of working flexible hours for top dollar. Whether it's to support themselves through university, to save up to buy property, to supplement their part-time job, or to provide for their children: The money is the motive.
6) THE FINER THINGS
For a girl from humble beginnings and a working class family, escorting has afforded me my first taste of real luxury. Perks of the job include the opportunity to travel, to stay in the best hotels, to dine in the finest restaurants, and to be showered with gifts and treated like a princess. While I will always be a down-to-earth girl-next-door at heart, it's still a lot of fun to be invited to briefly share the lavish lifestyle of some very successful gentlemen.
7) THE INDEPENDENCE
As a private escort, I am my own boss. I have complete autonomy over who I see, for how long, and how often. I work when I want, take naps when I want, eat when I want, (and masturbate when I want). I am my very own one-woman-business.
8) THE RISK
Lying to friends and family doesn't feel very nice. However there is also a certain rush we get from living a double-life. Jasmine Lane is my alter ego. She is the inner vixen that is unleashed behind closed doors. As strange as it sounds, I have become very fond of Jasmine and I love the way it feels when I slip into her veil of sexiness. I am attached to her in the way that an actress gets attached to a character that they play... except that unlike a fictional character, Jasmine actually embodies many aspects of the "real me." It will be a sad day when I leave the industry and must say goodbye to my lovely clients, but I will also be sad to let go of Jasmine. I will miss her and all of her naughty adventures.
9) THE GLAMOUR
Escorting encourages me to indulge in all things feminine and beautiful. Hair, makeup, perfume, dresses, shoes, lingerie. It's a girly-girl's wonderland!
10) THE LADIES
We are all aware of the stigma associated with sex work, and the stereotypes of working girls being desperate, dirty or addicted to drugs. I am ashamed to admit that these widely accepted judgements must have seeped into my subconscience, as I did harbour some trepidation regarding the kinds of women I would encounter upon entering the sex industry. I was relieved to find that I was surrounded by some of the most intelligent, classy, business-savvy women I have ever met in my life. Special shout out to two of my best friends, Jade Rose and Sienna X. These girls are beautiful on the inside and out. They have taught me so much and I will forever be inspired by their strength and grace. They have been my sounding board, my confidantes, and my friends. Sure, whenever you put a group of head-strong ambitious women together there is bound to be some competitiveness and cattiness (particularly in brothels). But for the most part there's a camaraderie and a sisterhood amongst us ladies, and a bond that develops from our unique, shared experience. Without these women, being an escort would feel extremely isolating as I'm unable to disclose details of my work to my family and friends, or lean on them for support. I owe a huge THANK YOU to all of the ladies who've helped me find my way in this crazy, wonderful, exhilarating and unpredictable industry. I wouldn't have made it without you.